Reflect · Unit 4 of 5 · 10 min

Map one person

Choose a real person you genuinely disagree with — ideally someone you know, not a public figure. Map them as fairly as you can. This is the exercise most people report as the turning point.

Who are they, and what is the disagreement?

State their position in their words, not your summary of it.

What in their life might make that position feel obvious to them?

What do they fear would happen if your view won completely?

What value are they protecting? Name it generously.

What is the truest thing in their position — the part you would have to answer?

What do the two of you actually want in common?

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