Reflect · Unit 4 of 5 · 9 min

Find the shared value

Take a live disagreement in your own life. Ladder both sides down, honestly, including your own.

The disagreement.

My position.

Why it matters to me — my interest underneath it.

The value I am protecting.

Their position.

Why it matters to them — as generously as you can manage.

The value they are protecting.

Looking at both value lines: what is shared?

What is the smallest thing you could both genuinely support?

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